A Family Conversation We All Need To Have…

I am going to say one more thing about the election, don’t worry it’s not negative. But I would like to implore people in light of the hate crimes to sit down and talk to your children, because many children are saying and doing things that are highly inappropriate, and we need to have this conversation at the kitchen table.
A friend of mine who’s child goes to Maple Grove High School saw racial epithets etched into a locker. Chances are the kids who did this were not of voting age, so this means they are hearing this at home, or watched the news and saw the inflammatory language used during this election (not pointing fingers at anyone, as this applies to everyone).
We need to reassure our children that:
a. The people who voted for Trump as a whole are not racist, they are not sexist, and to the people who voted Clinton, they are people who have a differing belief system then you. Yes, there are some who are the above, but in general, I did not think that 48% of the population believes this.
b. The same can be said for Hillary. The people who voted for Hillary are not libtards (anyone who uses this language inflames me), we are not voting with our vagina, we don’t all think that those that voted for Trump are evil incarnate. We are not all on welfare. Nor do we condone murdering infants fresh out of the womb. We have different belief system than Trump Supporters.
c. Agree to disagree… There is no need to rehash everything to prove a point.
d. The people who voted independent did not waste their vote, they are not to blame for anything. They voted their conscious, just as Trump voters and Clinton voters.
e. Under NO circumstances is racially inflammatory language acceptable from EITHER side. It accomplishes NOTHING. Calling the protesters thugs accomplishes nothing. Etching the N-word in lockers accomplishes nothing. It causes division and violence and it’s heartbreaking.  Calling Trump supporters racists is no different than calling Clinton supporters race baiters– both accomplish absolutely NOTHING.
f. Reassure your children that their friends are not going to get kicked out of the country. That’s just not going to happen. Sure Trump said it would. Explain rhetoric, even though he said it, doesn’t mean it’s going to happen, and that in Presidential elections people say things that they don’t mean. Jefferson called Adams a hermaphrodite back in the day. Was he really a hermaphrodite, probably not– generally infants with hermaphroditism were killed or institutionalized in the 1700s, so that was a high insult. Further, tell your kids not to go to school and say mean, bullying things to other kids, who are darker skinned. My daughter told me that some of the latino kids her class were told to say good-bye as Trump was going to kick them out. Come on, really? If my daughter said that I would b-tch slap her. If your kids are saying it, then chances are you need to b-tch slap yourself.
g.  Repeat the same conversation regarding Muslims.
h.  If you live in a community that these hate crimes have occurred in.  Go volunteer to clean it up with your children– be the example!  This behavior is not acceptable.  For those who are Christian like me, it is not Christ like.  There are two bible verses from Matthew that I reference regarding this: Matthew 24 and Matthew 19.  Something about a camel and eye of the needle, and hypocrites.  Don’t feel like looking it up, but it’s applicable here.
i.  Also explain to your children about how the system works.  It is not rigged.  It works as it was designed to.  It may need to be rescinded, but Trump won the electoral college, Clinton won the popular vote.  And if you are decrying the fact that all the votes are not counted– most of those votes were in democratic districts there are not enough of them make a difference in the results.  They are not fraudulent votes, and they probably are not going to make that much of a difference in the outcome.  Congratulations you won, be happy.
j.  It is OK to protest peacefully, and if you don’t believe it’s not OK, get out of my country and look up the first amendment, the one I think is more important than the second amendment.  But anyway, I signed up to defend this country, and I encourage those who are protesting– protest away.  Teach your children to protest.  It  is your constitutional right that I signed up to defend.  As to why the peaceful protests are necessary– Trump used very inflammatory language to get elected.  I highly doubt he believed half the shit he was saying, but he said it, and the electoral majority needs to know that it made other people angry.  As a woman, I am angry that he said he liked, “grabbing women by the pussy.”  As a woman, who was grabbed by her pussy in high school on a school bus it made me incensed that someone did this and still got elected.  I have a right to be angry.  Hell, if there were any protests near me, I would go to them too.  I accept the results of the election, but that doesn’t mean I think what he did was right.  And no amount of apology will make what he said right, in my mind.  He said it, it hurt, and “locker room talk” was a bullshit excuse.  For those saying, “well I didn’t protest when Obama was elected…”  Obama didn’t say anything about grabbing women’s pussies, Obama didn’t say he was going to deport Mexicans, and Obama didn’t say that Muslims need to be registered.  So he really didn’t do anything to offend your sensibilities other than exist.  Try to understand the why of the protests, these people are not lazy, thugs, or doing it to be ungracious losers.  They are doing it because Trump pissed them off.
k.  Finally, reassure your children that it’s going to be OK.  We are not going to go to war.  Trump is not going to launch nukes.  Barack Obama said a few days ago, after Clinton lost the election, “The sun is going to keep rising.” Tell your kids that the best thing to do after you are done protesting is protest with your wallet and your vote.  I for one will not be buying any Chinese-made Trump ties, nor will I be staying at Trump Tower, I will be voting, and I will be writing my Senators and Representatives.
In summary, we live in a democratic republic (the whole electoral college bit), it is already a great country (and we probably will go up from here), people are unhappy about the election– it opened wounds, there were not nice things said, and because the not nice things were said doesn’t mean we should behave like the candidates, that those not nice things are OK, and that we are better than how the minority on both sides are behaving.  My sister-in-law posted a really cool thing on her wall, and I’ll repeat it here:  “No one man can make our country great, and no one man can destroy our country.”

Dear Mr/Mrs Future President…


Dear Mrs. Clinton/Mr. Trump/Mr. Johnson/Mrs. Stein,

One of you will have the ultimate honor of being the next commander-in-chief.  All four of you have promised in one way, or another, to take care of veterans and military families during your campaigns.  As a military veteran and military spouse, I have an interesting insight on how you can truly help us.

First of all, throwing money at programs with a fancy name is not going to provide much help.  For the last 14 years of my husband’s 19 years of service, I have been unemployed.  For the most part, I volunteered to be the stay at home mom, but when I was ready to return to work, I discovered much to my dismay that my commission, 40% disability rating, and experience meant next to nothing.  The “real world” is like the honey badger, it doesn’t give a f(#*.  It doesn’t care that you race directed three 5-kilometer races, and raised over $70K for autism charities.  It doesn’t care that you are a published author, that you gave away your artwork that you work extremely hard on, or that you have put the free freelance for years.  The real world doesn’t care.

Secondly, please change the EFMP system for special needs children.  My son is one of those military children that have fallen through cracks.  He has been written off as uneducateable by the local school system.  He was ABUSED in a classroom, and sadly there was NOTHING I could do about it.  I tried hiring a lawyer, but the local school district had all education lawyer on retainer.  I tried writing the newspaper, and I was told by readership that they didn’t want my child bringing down the standards for their children.  I even contacted Dr. Phil, but my husband didn’t want to go to on a daily talk show.  How can you help with this?  Make school districts for ALL special education students (not just military ones) accountable for not following the law!  It is amazing how back asswards some districts are.  The military is a powerful way to affect change in educational standards for special needs kiddos.  Basically, if the military start refusing to send families to school districts that systematically ignore the law– it will hit them where it counts.  The military where I live has a strong positive impact on the local economy.  There are over 10,000 family members in the state I live in now with special needs, and if those families were to move, it would negatively impact an economy.

Finally, the number one employer for veterans is actually the US Government.  One thing the government can do to make it easier for veterans is make the application process less cumbersome.  The complicated application process makes applying for a job a daunting task.  Many veterans quit before the accomplish their application.  The transfer and application process makes it difficult for veterans and spouses apply for jobs.